This Article was inspired by an incident that happened to a female friend of mine. She’s been dating a guy happily for 9 months. Imagine her shock when she ran into her “So Called Boyfriend” at a friends church with his wife and 3 sons all
wearing matching colors attending a thanksgiving service.
She has been emotionally spent and most importantly asking herself ‘how did this happen to her?’ Because she didn’t know he was married. Ladies don’t be a Sheep in the World of Wolves. When you meet a guy who has taken an interest in you don’t go into that relationship on “face validity” alone.
Do a proper research on him, it’s what a Psychologist would call “Construct Validity,” Google his name, check your mutual friends on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and any social media. Ask these mutual friends about him, his past relationships etc you’ll be surprised what you might find out.
And for those who didn’t do any research on their man and are dating him already, here are some red flags to look out for to know if he’s married or has another girlfriend:
1) Any guy who continuously doesn’t answer his phone or reply messages past 9pm.
2)Any guy who has the perfect excuse for you not meeting his friends or family members.
3)Any guy who never wants to go anywhere public like a mall, cinema, beach etc. always private bars or guest house
4)Any guy who tries to replace time spending with you with gifts and money
5)Any guy who doesn’t update pictures on bbm or any social media. .
6)Any guy who disappears on his Birthday or Valentine’s Day in the name of business trip.
All these are red flags you should look out for. Ladies you don’t want to have an imaginary boyfriend or be with someone who has a family somewhere. The most important factor here is TIME. You don’t want to lose years or months of your life in an imaginary relationship that won’t bare any fruits…… apart 4rm d proverbial eggplant